There is no way to measure the effects of how we were raised. The eighteenth chapter of Ezekiel deals with teaching in the home and its acceptance or rejection. If a righteous man raised a child who became evil the father would not have to answer for the son. If the son raised by an unrighteous father chose to do what was right, he then would deliver his own soul. Hate nor love is anything we are born with but rather what we bring into our hearts. Those raised under Islamic teaching are taught to view non-Muslims in a certain light. They can be raised to be suspicious of or even hate those who are not of the Islamic faith.
In the same way if you were raised to hate a race of people, why would you cease doing that? Something has to enter the thinking of a person to cause them to realize they were not taught correctly. The Christian is always shown that we must cast down imagination and every high thing that exalts itself above the knowledge of God (2 Cor. 10:5). We see senseless violence via the television and other mediums. How could they do that, kill innocent people, men, women and children? It goes back to how they were raised? Is the solution to the world’s problems, a sword and the death of your enemies?
The difficult task for Christians is to look to our own lives and apply the same rules. If you were raised to come to worship God only on Sunday morning what is the more likely outcome of your thinking? Church is not that important and you will be the way you were raised. Going back to Ezekiel 18, that is not set in stone. My point is that our value system needs to arise from our own personal search of the faith and the claims of Jesus the Christ. No one who comes to know Jesus would ever engage in the violence we see all around us. Many in our world, in the church and out of the church, do not know Him. If they studied and applied they would come to know and love Him. May we all strive to teach as many as we can and show them Jesus, the beloved Son of God.